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Updated: Father Of Dead Children Wants Some Answers Save Email Print
Posted: 6:26 PM Jun 27, 2008
Last Updated: 6:10 AM Jul 2, 2008
Reporter: Bill Wilson/Lynnette Taylor/Christine Kennedy

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A portion of the investigation into the death of two Dare County toddlers has been transferred to the Currituck County Department of Social Services.

Two year old Amariyah and 19 month old Kassandra Daniels died this weekend after deputies say they trapped themselves inside a hot car.

No charges have been filed against the children's parents. Authorities are calling it a tragic accident.

Dare County DSS officials say they transferred a portion of the investigation due to a conflict of interest.

The funeral for the toddlers is set for Wednesday at 2PM at Free Grace Disciples of Christ Church on North Raleigh Street in Manteo.

Monday's Update

Toys remain scattered in the front yard of a trailer off Ira Waterfield road in Manns Harbor, some of them belonging to 2 year-old Amariyah and 19 month-old Kassandra Daniels. The two little girls died this weekend after Dare County authorities say they got trapped inside a neighbors car where temperatures reached 135 degrees.

Sheriff Rodney Midget say their mother was taking a nap. "She closed a latch on the inside of the door to keep the children from going out, somehow once she was asleep, taking a nap, the children apparently got up and wandered outside."

Shawn Daniels is the children's father. He didn't live with his kids or their mother. In fact, a court order currently bars him from any contact. But that doesn't mean he doesn't want answers. "I just don't see how kids that young are left unattended. "I feel very wronged and anyone that's done anything unjust, I'd just like to see them held accountable."

Daniels said he and the children's mother, Amy Cooper, have lost custody in the past. Daniels said they were charged with neglect because of drugs in the household.

Daniels says he'll continue to look for answers. "I'm going to have to do what I gotta do to make sure my girls didn't die in vain."

Update

Dare County Authorities say two young sisters who died after they were found in a hot vehicle apparently climbed into the car but were unable to get themselves out.

A paternal relative of the children tells WITN, that 2 year old Amariyah Daniels and her 18 month old sister, Kassandra, were outside with their four-year-old brother when they disappeared.

Authorities say their mother, Amy Cooper, could not find them and called police.

A deputy discovered the children about 30 minutes later in the back seat of a neighbor's vehicle near their home in Manns Harbor.

Sheriff Rodney Midgett says the mother told investigators she and the three children went to sleep together. The mother told deputies that the children must have awakened and wandered outside the mobile home.

Tonight at six, WITN's Ken Heineck speaks with the father of the dead children, as well as the Dare County D.S.S. about past problems within that home.

Original Story

Authorities say a 2-year-old girl and her 18-month old sister have been found dead in a car after they wandered away from home.

Dare County deputies say the girls were reported missing Friday afternoon and found 30 minutes later inside a neighbor's car.

The younger girl was pronounced dead a short time later, while her sister died early Saturday morning.

They have not been identified.

Sgt. Terry Ballance told The Virginian-Pilot of Norfolk, Va., that the girls were playing outside with their older brother when they disappeared.

Temperatures in the area were around 90 degrees at the time.

A man answering the phone at the Dare County Sheriff's Office on Saturday refused to give any details or take a message for anyone
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One child is dead and another critically injured in Dare County after they turned up missing this afternoon.

The Dare County sheriff's office says the 2-year-old and an 18-month-old disappeared today shortly before 3:00 p.m. in Manns Harbor.

After a short search, deputies say they found the two children in an old vehicle very near their home. The temperature in the vehicle was very hot and both children were unresponsive.

Authorities say the 18-month-old later died after being rushed to the hospital. The other child is a Kings Daughters Hospital in Norfolk.

Deputies say it appears the two children and their older brother were playing outside and they became trapped in the vehicle. Dare County says it's being investigated as a tragic accident.

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Posted by: Arnetia Hardy Location: Raleigh, NC on Oct 8, 2008 at 01:34 PM
My name is Arnetia Hardy I am 15 and these ARE MY BEAUTIFUL LITTLE SISTERS THAT EVERYONE IS DISCUSSING. My father is a WONDERFUL father and he DOESN'T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION ON WHY HE WASN'T THERE!!! IT'S DSS'S FAULT AND ALL OF YA'LL UP HERE POPPIN OFF AT THE MOUTH NEED TO MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING GOOD TO SAY ABOUT THIS MATTER. MY FATHER HAS RAISED ME AND BEEN THERE FOR ME ALL MY LIFE... AND I KNOW THAT WILL NEVER EVER CHANGE, THROUGH THE BAD AND THE GOOD! I WOULD LIKE TO THANK EVERYONE WHO CAME ON THIS PAGE TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF ME AND MY FAMILY! BUT LIKE I SAID BEFORE YOU RUN YA MOUTH LEARN WHAT HAPPENED FIRST. AMY LYNN COOPER HAS RAISED ME AND I LOVE HER VERY MUCH AND ALTHOUGH THE GIRLS ARE NO LONGER WITH US HERE ON EARTH... THEIR NOT FAR AWAY! AND MY MOTHER (AMY LYNN COOPER-DANIELS) HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME AND MY BROTHER AND THOUGH THIS WHOLE SITUATION MAY NOT HAVE BEEN INTENTIONABLE I HIGHLY AGREE THAT IS WAS PREVENTABLE! I LOVE YOU MOM N DAD!

Posted by: MAUREEN Location: williamston on Jul 11, 2008 at 06:29 PM
MAY GOD BE WITH THE FAMILY. I CAN'T BEGIN TO EXPRESS THE PAIN I FEEL FOR YOU ALL. MAY GOD BE WITH YOU.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: results on Jul 10, 2008 at 11:20 AM
What was the autposy finding on these children, and will any charges be made. Not that i want to see any one go to jail, but just like the father say, he want answers.

Posted by: maribel Location: greenville on Jul 9, 2008 at 06:42 PM
someone needs to tell these babies father what exactly happen to them. i think is a shame what had happen to these precious babies.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Grantsboro, NC on Jul 7, 2008 at 05:38 PM
These beautiful little girls are in a better place with a father who loves them unconditionally. These little girls are in a better place. God be with their families here on earth.

Posted by: glass houses Location: utopia on Jul 4, 2008 at 11:58 AM
Every day i get up Thank God that nothing terrible has happened to my children because I KNOW that I am not perfect and am trying to figuring out this crazy thing called parenthood. No children are the same mine expecially. I make mistakes and I learn and thankfully none have been costly. All I can hope is that I bring them up right and things like this accident made me change things at my own house for one is locking my car something that I never do. To me when I heard this it was all I could do to get home and give my kids a big hug and kiss. It's the sort of thing that makes you sit up and think and I feel terrible for this family because I could not understand what they are going through. If she was wrong hopefully Dare County's finest will figure it out for now we all need to sit back and thank god it was not our children and pray for the two little ones that have passed.

Posted by: why Location: rocky mount on Jul 3, 2008 at 10:41 PM
i agree with you 100% glass house..but i would like to add this......some people make and take an extra effort to place blame. most of the parents that i talk to say the same as i..when the kids nap, you nap because your attention is needed greatly when they are awake. as a parent of 2 children and a grandchild i would be extremely traumatized if this hit home. if nothing else is learned from this situation, please triple protect your children from leaving the house and from those who want to get in.

Posted by: einstein Location: dare county on Jul 3, 2008 at 10:39 PM
I have just read through all this crap you people have been spewing and I remember one thing that I learned in Sunday School none of you are God and have no right to judge anyone. To those of you who think by using big words it makes what you say have more weight WRONG I just know you own a Thesaurus and a Dictionary. For you I will give you some simple common words to dwell on. SAD TRAGIC ACCIDENT A quote I myself love and feels it holds bearing by Dale Carnegie ANY FOOL CAN CRITICIZE, CONDEMN AND COMPLAIN....AND MOST FOOLS DO How many fools are there condeming people on this??? How many fools are complaining and criticizing people on this? I see many and you know who you are and so do we.

Posted by: glass houses Location: utopia on Jul 3, 2008 at 09:46 PM
I sit in my house and have read over the several comments that have been made regarding this "Tragic Accident" and wonder why it is so important to several people to lay the blame on someone.Instead of laying blame take all your anger all your contempt and put into something positive and maybe volunteer your perfect parenting skills and foster a child that needs a home. Maybe take your perfect parenting skills and go out and give lectures to the rest of us unperfect parents. Promise me when I tell you this as you quote verses from the bible and pat yourself on the back YOU ARE NOT PERFECT,YOU ARE LUCKY. I myself work a full time job and everyday try to be supermom.Try as hard as i can but I am not.Could this of happened to me yes.Had this been a mother that was not poor that was living in a large house not a trailor would all of you scream as much as you do now. I dont think so. Karma comes full circle watch what you preach...

Posted by: Tommy kirk Location: la la land on Jul 3, 2008 at 04:23 PM
The ones of you ,that are jesus believers know that .god called the kids cause they needed a better life,they are at there real home now,,and i would give anything to be myself ,my time just hasnt came yet..the kids were the lucky ones,God Bless the familys and friends..

Posted by: FU on Jul 3, 2008 at 04:20 PM
you guys called Kim G out and she scrammed. You must have been right. That's funny.

Posted by: Bump Location: projects on Jul 3, 2008 at 04:14 PM
I havent any idea what people would do if they couldnt say bad things about other people.This is a short life,,STOP think about it,cant you people find things to do besides talk about other people,,yes its a sad thing for the kids and family,my prayers are with them,you might be ask one day,why did you say all those bad things about people for if you make it to heaven,,,,Better think,,

Posted by: love Location: san diego, california on Jul 3, 2008 at 01:50 AM
Jam, unfortunately, God did not create us to be able to stay awake 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so it is impossible for a parent not to get any sleep, the problem is not that she took a nap, the problem is that the doors weren't secured enough to keep the children from getting out of the house while she was asleep. your comment was very ignorant.

Posted by: Ms. NC Location: NC on Jul 3, 2008 at 01:14 AM
First of all who ever Kim Grissom is, just stop talkn b/c you're making yourself look real stupid. Right now the focus needs to be on the parents an their well being. After going through something this tragic the parents need all the support & love possible. (People need to stop airing others info out b/c you could be charged for slander). The people that is making all these negative comments, you could be faced with the same one day! Sweep Around Your Own Front Door Before You Sweep Around Someone Elses!!! My Love goes out to the whole family!!

Posted by: Tragic Location: farmville on Jul 2, 2008 at 11:19 PM
What a tragedy. Admittedly, we only know what is in the report, but my pre-school kids never walked out of our house unattended. Never. I have twins, so it isn't like we were never tired. And we didn't have "help" most of the time. Something is just not right here. It is either criminal negigence, or a very real tragic accident, but it is at least very very poor parenting- a failure somewhere which cost 2 girls their lives.

Posted by: Cactus Location: Strabane, NC on Jul 2, 2008 at 10:18 PM
Kim Grissom, Manns Harbor; Have you worn out your grinding wheel yet, your ax should be sharp by now.

Posted by: P to wrong again on Jul 2, 2008 at 09:38 PM
You are right about the justice system. It is sad the way the shift little kids around like they were cattle. Even is seperations. The kid are with one parent one week the other one next. What kind of life is that. It is like the child is the last one thought of. What can we as citizens do?

Posted by: why Location: rocky mount on Jul 2, 2008 at 09:19 PM
now i have heard it all jam....if the child takes a nap, the parent shouldn't tak a nap. i guess this means that when the child goes to sleep at night the parent shouldn't sleep. i guess you have help around the clock, watching the children as they sleep. i'm glad that your children will never be in harms way.

Posted by: unknown on Jul 2, 2008 at 08:14 PM
i feel so bad for the mother but worse for the father. He has lost two precious girls . He will have to suffer for the rest of his life for her "nap". I hope they take the other child from her and charge to the fullest extent of the law. My prayers are with the remaining family and the father. God bless the girls

Posted by: Obama 08 4 Prez! on Jul 2, 2008 at 06:29 PM
LOL, throwing insults and calling names like a bunch of sissies. What grade did you quit in school, 2nd, 3rd? This is why we have a justice system. A lot of you would be stoning people to death. I'm so naive, I thought we had all our crazy people locked away in basements.

Posted by: C on Jul 2, 2008 at 03:32 PM
My prayers and deepest sympathy, to the family (mother) of these 2 precious children. And to those of you judging the system, and DSS, this mother did everything requested of her, in order to get her life straight for her kids, and she was on the right track. And it is my understanding that the mother and children were all taking a nap, not just the mother. And as a mother myself I know that many times I have napped when my children napped, so for those that are judging this mother, think about it...She had already made the choices to turn her life around, she had chose her children, over there father...I don't consider this a mistake, I consider this just what it is being called a very tradgic accident...and God has a plan for all of us.

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Posted by: jam Location: washington on Jul 2, 2008 at 02:40 PM
the day your child is born till they can take care of them self you do not take naps.you have to take care and know where they are at 24/7

Posted by: k Location: g on Jul 2, 2008 at 12:36 PM
who said the mother was on drugs? i see where it says the father (whose motive is questionable) said they lost custody bc of drugs in the house, but that doesnt necessarily mean she was doing them. unless you personally know she was on drugs you shouldnt incriminate her and jump to conclusions. for all we know the woman just took a nap.

Posted by: Social Worker on Jul 2, 2008 at 11:03 AM
Kim, I think it's great that you want to protect your friend, but you can't control what other people think and say about the situation. They have the right to think and say what they want, whether it is right or not. If you really know the mom and the whole situation like you say you do, the best thing you can do is be there for her and support her through this tragedy the best you can. She definitely needs people on her side now, and hopefully this will make her get her life straight. It's so sad that it had to come to this, but hopefully she will turn her life around and find joy in her life and the child she has left. My prayers are with you and her, as well as the child she has left. She can't take back what has already happened, but she can move on and make the best out of the life she has left. God bless!

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Manteo on Jul 2, 2008 at 08:21 AM
Yes, the mother made a terrible mistake, and unfortunately, the children suffered b/c of it. I feel for her, but at the same time, she was not living the way she should have been. The best thing she can do now is get her life in order, get off drugs, and realize that your actions affect everyone around you, whether you like it or not. Don't let these children die in vain, do something about it. Change your life. You made a terrible mistake, we all do. You can sit around and cry about it or do something about it so this doesn't happen again. You have another child to think about.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Manteo on Jul 2, 2008 at 08:19 AM
I agree with Tom... until everyone stops blaming "the system" and realizes that parents have to take responsibility for their mistakes, things will forever be the way they are. The government is not responsible for your children. In this case, when the mother could/would not care for her children, society stepped in, as needed in this case. But ultimately, the mother brought these children into the world and she was responsible for them.

Posted by: kathy Location: plymouth nc on Jul 2, 2008 at 12:03 AM
To all the ugly remarks;judge not as you will be judged.To the entire family my heart goes out to you.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: greenville on Jul 1, 2008 at 11:23 PM
im sorry if i don"t know were my kids are than im the wrong one i feel sorry for the kids but moro sorry for the mom that has to live with her self for not keeping a good eye on them

Posted by: Wrong Again!! Location: Greenville,NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 10:53 PM
This is a tragic situation for sure!! Two innocent children paid the price....but just so everyone knows....the DSS does not determine if a child stays with the parents or not...they make recommendations to the courts, but that is all.....the Guardian ad Litem (24 hours of training) gets more input into the situation in Dare County....let me assure you as I know....I have had a Dare County Foster Child and I know what the GAL program is like in that county...it is a joke!! I have written complaint after complaint to about that program in Dare County and it falls on deaf ears....I have to defend the Dare County DSS for what they did to try and protect our foster child...but the courts and the laws allow children to be placed in harm's way...we need to focus more on protecting these children than arguing about whose fault it is when it is TOO LATE!! The court system needs to be held accoutable and so does the GAL program in Dare County! I am fighting for innocent children....will you?

Posted by: barry Location: manteo on Jul 1, 2008 at 09:51 PM
Kim G is not even a social worker. She is a close friend trying to make the situation better so cut her some slack.

Posted by: Cactus Location: Strabane,NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 09:48 PM
Two more angels to pour down the rain. God Bless. Love.

Posted by: Holly on Jul 1, 2008 at 09:20 PM
if you were there caring for the children while the mother napped then none of this would've happened. So, you really don't know the whole story...do you? You know a version of it. And I think it's time for you to stop attempting to make a martyr out of the mother- what she did/didn't do was neglectful, leave it at that.

Posted by: Anonymous on Jul 1, 2008 at 07:11 PM
you need to just let it go because living in an area this small can cause you to lose the job that you currently hold. Confidentiality is very important and I'm sure he wouldn't want you telling all his business.

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 06:51 PM
if you disagree with me, that is fine; you are certainly welcome to be wrong. But your personal attacks and name calling are rather pointless and childish. I'm actually surprised that they made it past editing. Anyway, though "THE SYSTEM" played a role here, primary responsibility lies with the parent, not society.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: MANTEO on Jul 1, 2008 at 06:47 PM
Everyone needs to sto ptalking so much about who is to blame and think about how the families of these two children are suffering at this timer. All of you are way over the line. Let the family be and if you don't have anything nice to say, then how about you just keep your negative comments to yourself.

Posted by: Anonymous on Jul 1, 2008 at 05:18 PM
Good point, Social worker!Kim is giving too much info and she started by giving her real name..I'd hate for her to be my case manager.

Posted by: S Location: Eastern NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 05:17 PM
The best and most truthful thing I have heard on this site is the DSS SUCKS....no truer statement was ever said.

Posted by: greg Location: manteo on Jul 1, 2008 at 04:57 PM
I think Kim is way over the confidentiality line, almost to the point that I think she is a fake and just trying to help out a friend or family member. The mom in question is not the great person Kim makes her out to be.

Posted by: Social Worker Location: NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 04:36 PM
Kim, it sounds like you're divulging more confidential information about the case than you need to be. Does your job have policies in place regarding confidentiality? I'm sure your past client(s) would not want everyone knowing everything you know about them. Are you sure you really want to be using your real name now?

Posted by: Kim Grissom Location: Manns Harbor on Jul 1, 2008 at 04:12 PM
Is this the one "praying for Shawn" that has also had her children permanently removed by DSS? Leave it alone and do not leave yourself open when others know who you are and your motives for bashing the mother.

Posted by: Social Worker Location: NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 04:10 PM
DSS is another agency that you hear more bad about than good. I'm sure for every child that slips through the cracks, there are at least a dozen others that are safe and protected because of the help of DSS. In this case, DSS was obviously satisfied with the kids staying with the mom or they wouldn't have been there. As for the dad, I'm sure he is hurting, but he's just trying to make himself look good since she looks bad now. These precious girls are gone because the mom made a bad decision, which we are all capable of making sometimes, and that is neglect, but don't blame DSS for it.

Posted by: praying for shawn Location: manteo nc on Jul 1, 2008 at 03:37 PM
everyone is bashing the dad asking his whereabouts thats a question you need to ask dss if they hadnt butted in they wouldve been with him who takes a nap while you have babies up roaming around if she was that tired she shouldve left them at daycare where they were

Posted by: Angel Location: NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 02:51 PM
The mother should be behind bars. Some people just do not deserve to be parents. How can you take a nap with children this small. I could never sleep unless they were sleeping. And, Fault, I agree--the DSS in this state SUCKS!! Everyone wants the paycheck though but they do not want ot actually work for it.

Posted by: Kim Grissom Location: Manns Harbor on Jul 1, 2008 at 02:39 PM
To Friend of Family, I could not agree with you more and have been sickened by everything I have read so far. The mother and the father are grieving. Mom can hardly function but will not speak with the press like the other family. We all grieve in our own way. Yes, I so agree that we need to stop judging and nobody knows the details I do but will not trash it everywhere. All families have their own issues and these who are judging.... I pity them because they are covering their own faults. Take care and those you see on both sides give comfort.

Posted by: fault? on Jul 1, 2008 at 02:18 PM
2 children are dead because their mom wanted a lil' nap???? dss should have been involved long ago, however the dss is horrible in this state. i know that i have 3 kids and am awake when they are awake, because that is what parents do...they watch their kids to protect them...! when they stop watching...this happens!

Posted by: k Location: here on Jul 1, 2008 at 02:01 PM
i agree with friend. and by the way, to whoever wrote 'to k' i take great care of my children...i do the best that i know how. just sometimes we make mistakes, no one is perfect. im sure this mom has done this before with the nap, ive done it, babyproofed a room for my two year old to play in while i rested--ive never had a problem, but i bet she didnt either. i will definitely think twice now. im sure you take great care of your children, but i will bet you youre not perfect. some friends of mine lost a child in a similar way, he opened the door and went outside and drowned in a creek--they were cleaning the house upstairs and thought he was taking a nap (downstairs). they had no idea he could open the door. it happens, and i dont care what anyone says, including the father that wants to lay all the blame on the mother, people make mistakes--some that we get by with and some we regret for the rest of our lives. this mom needs prayers, i think she is aware she made a mistake.

Posted by: Kim Grissom Location: Manns Harbor on Jul 1, 2008 at 02:00 PM
Yes, I do know the whole story. I live across the street from them and was the father's Case Manager in prison and his past Probation Officer. You have no idea and you sit on your righteous throne and do not know one iota of what you spout. You are a fool "Foolery" because you are clueless. Our system as a whole failed these children and fingers cannot be pointed at anyone. The father can have zero contact at all - good man? I think now. Know your facts before you speak jibberish. Anyone who states they have not had heart stopping moments with their children have not had parents or are just plain liars. There are two dead children and you are placing blame when you know NOTHING!!!! I know facts, something you do not. Mr. Fool - give your real name and do not hide like a coward.

Posted by: friend of family Location: wanchese on Jul 1, 2008 at 01:01 PM
Regardless of whose "fault" this tragic accident ends up being attributed to, there are two parents and one "big brother" that will never be the same. There is a yard full of empty toys and two little pillows without two little precious heads to lay on them at night. Legal wheels will turn and publically acceptable consequences will happen all in good time. These folks have wounds that will never completely heal and what ifs will haunt them forever. Right now this broken family needs prayers, hugs, and all the spiritual/community support they can get. They have suffered the most ultimate losses imaginable. Give them the benefit of the doubt for now, give the legal system a chance to work, and stop enjoying some pitiful, broken family's "dirty laundry" like the old rock and roll song said.

Posted by: Holly on Jul 1, 2008 at 12:51 PM
Facts are facts...neither mother nor father were there & the children suffered b/c of it. It's absolutely heartbreaking. I feel for the 4 year old. Kim Grissom- you say you know the whole story, I would assume that means you were there the entire time, huh? Interesting.

Posted by: lharp8261 Location: Ahoskie on Jul 1, 2008 at 12:46 PM
First of all, how do a 2 yr old and a 19 month old open a car door by themselves? I have a 19 mo old grandson and he cannot reach the car door???????? This is very sad they were 2 beautiful children.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Manteo on Jul 1, 2008 at 09:52 AM
Well said Tom!

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jul 1, 2008 at 09:35 AM
Dear Ms. Grissom, Firstly, thank you for the attempted insults. This nonsense that we can't judge the events of this situation is insane. You're complaining about what you wrongly perceive as "judgment" but then you spout ignorance about "judgment day." You can't wait for that day for me? So you can't wait until I die? Gee, thanks! This isn't "prejudgment," this is judgment after the fact which, luckily, won't interfere with any of our salvation. "Evidently," YOU don't know the whole story, and you haven't read my posts in their entirety, or you would see them as both empathetic, and educated. As for your assertion that God would not approving, the alarming voice of the prophet is often not well received among the masses. Good day to you, Tom

Posted by: Kendya on Jul 1, 2008 at 08:44 AM
I have a 2 year old of my own and when I heard about this story it broke my heart. I take every precautiont hat I can in making sure that my daughter is safe. As parents we must put our children first and put our needs second. I don't know all the facts behind this story because I was not there, but if the mother was tired and needed a nap, why not call a family memeber over to watch the children for an hour or so while she slept? These two beautiful girls didn't even get to live a life and this is something that this mother must live with every single day of her life. I think this is punishment enough; to wake up every single day and not see your children. It's very sad and all I can say is we must continue to pray for each other. In times like these, prayer and faith in God is the only way we are going to make it.

Posted by: Chris Location: Windsor on Jul 1, 2008 at 07:54 AM
Sounds like neither "Parent" had much sense! I am not sure about the whole "nap" thing, sounds like these folks had some drug/alcohol problems!

Posted by: MADDOG Location: U.S.A. on Jun 30, 2008 at 10:15 PM
All I can say is (Show some LOVE People)

Posted by: Kim Grissom Location: Manns Harbor on Jun 30, 2008 at 09:51 PM
Jessica, Again, know the whole story. These kids were outside and the 4 year old went to tell on the other 2. We give kids keys to play with, have a steering wheel on their car seat... they wanted to drive like mom and had just started imitating this. Know facts people before you judge and I am sure there is a lot in your past I can judge you for - I already have in many ways. Obama - I like you (even if not your choice for Prez - Smile).

Posted by: Obama 08 4 Prez! on Jun 30, 2008 at 09:21 PM
I don't know the whole story, and won't pretend that I do. But "IF" it was or "WASN'T an accident this woman has to live with this forever. When people see her this is what she will be associated with. This is what she will be remember for. I have two kids, and if I knew this woman I would give her a hug. Not because of what i think may have happened. But because that's what God would want me to do. She feels bad enough without us beating her down, its time to let her up.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Manteo on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:44 PM
This is a very sad situation and it is not time to be pointing fingers at anyone. I am so sorry for your lost Amy and Shawn. My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to you, your families, and the community. The girls are in a safe place now smiling down on all of us.

Posted by: Jessica Location: robersonville on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:26 PM
It breaks my heart that something this tragic could happen. I hope the family gets the answer that they want and deserve. I personally dont think this was an accident...just doesnt add up to me. Maybe as the investigation continues and they letout more I'll see it but I dont think a 4 year old would leave his little sisters in a strangers van. I dont know who is at fault but some one should be held accountable.

Posted by: BIG J Location: SNOWHILL on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:08 PM
My prays are with the Family.GOD Knows why and what Happened here. He and He alone will have the Last word.The little Ladys are in his loving arms now.

Posted by: agrievingfamilymember Location: manteo on Jun 30, 2008 at 07:37 PM
first thank you all for your blessings these two will always be loved and missed dearly they are PRECIOUS ANGELS. secondly the father has always been involved with these children until DSS steped in.There are several questions that still need to be answered and the truth will SHINE my beautiful nieces death is not a tragic accident it is a neglectful act that should of could of been avoided but was not and befor anyone passes judgement on my brother in law learn the truth for the truth has not been found out YET....

Posted by: luke on Jun 30, 2008 at 07:01 PM
sounds like "dad" agrees with me!!

Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 30, 2008 at 07:00 PM
I can understand how this happened. My husband would leave at 530 in the am. One morning my son, who was only about 2 at the time got up and went outside. My brother lived next door. He went over to play with his cousins. After that I put chain on the door and made sure it was locked at all times. My son could have just as easily wondered in the woods behind our house. Or even got into the swimming pool, road etc. So this could be an accident. Why is the father speaking out now. Why doesn't he have custody if he is such a great father. If DSS was already involved why were the children still in this house. They must not have found any thing wrong or they would not have been there. If there was something wrong in this home than DSS is just as responsible for not protecting these children and so is the father.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: columbus,ga on Jun 30, 2008 at 06:58 PM
I believe if more fathers with step up and take care of their children, then maybe so many kids want be wondering outside by themselves, yet still their should be parental supervision,, always, all the timme.

Posted by: Kim Grissom Location: Manns Harbor on Jun 30, 2008 at 06:57 PM
Luke in NH, Tom Foolery or should I say fool, evidently you do not know the whole story and I cannot wait until you meet for judgment day. I know the WHOLE story even events leading to this tragedy. You have prejudged and will answer to God for this later. All of you who have prejudged will. That is if you do believe because God did not approve of what you have written or your uneducated reponses (and I am not afraid to give my real name like you all are).

Posted by: Shelly Location: Bertie County on Jun 30, 2008 at 06:13 PM
Who opened the car door for the kids? I am sure it wasn't left open. Was the 4 year old in the car. What safety measures did she have in place. Does she sleep so hard, she doesn't know when her children get up? Was she really sleep? Was she at home? Ask some questions.

Posted by: jasmine Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 06:09 PM
I think it is crazy that the father is getting up there talking about how the mother needs to have something happen to her...He ain't had nothing to do with these babies in along time...NOW he want's to act like he cares..ummmm Where has he been?

Posted by: luke Location: nags head on Jun 30, 2008 at 05:26 PM
the mom should be arrested after the funeral and punished.

Posted by: j Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 05:17 PM
Everyone is trying this woman and criticizing each other for their opinions. The bottom line is...these two beautiful children are gone. Yea, I think the mother was very negligent, and I'm sure she knows it and she'll be tried . Regardless, what's done is done! Prayers do need to be with her. If she unintentionally set this event in motion, God be with her. If she intended for this to happen, God be with her. She's going to need him!! I agree, as a mother, things happen when you turn your back, but you take every precaution. And even then, you can mess up terribly. Things can happen that can't be undone. I think once all the facts are out there, it'll be easier to judge her, but those of you judging need to remember that you are also being judged. We don't ALL make the best decisions.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 04:38 PM
I can't belive this it is so sad.. i was the older girls daycare teacher a while back... such a sweet girl they both were.. i will keep the family in my prayers..

Posted by: shonda Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 04:14 PM
This should be a warning for all parents who have let seconds or minutes go by assuming their children will be alright playing by themselves..It is just too much they can get into so quickly and as a parent you have to be on guard at ALL times..but my heart still goes out to the family and I will pray that they can get through this difficult tragedy.

Posted by: Ms.T Location: Greensboro, N.C on Jun 30, 2008 at 03:27 PM
I really feel for this family.But do you really think a 2yrs old and a 18 month old can open a van door,doors are heavy,i can't see that happening,maybe the 4yrs old doing so.do you think he let them in there, its something to think about.I AM SORRY FOR THIS FAMILY!!!!

Posted by: chica Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 03:23 PM
Several thoughts are running through my head. 1. Rest in peace, little angels. 2. Lord have mercy on the parents, family, and anyone affected by this sad accident 3. Give those who dont know what really happened, a emphathetic heart for the family. this is just news too some people that will quickly pass, but for the family the pain will last a lifetime, each day, every birthday, and special occassion.4. finally give the media a emphathetic heart, the title of "Father of Dead Children Speaks out", is so cold.

Posted by: Tammy Location: Williamston on Jun 30, 2008 at 03:22 PM
Ok- to those that evidentley didnt read the whole story, The mother and the kids went to sleep together and the kids mustve awakend and wandered off while the mother was still asleep!! Ok I can see that happening, and the older child couldve opened the car door and the younger ones getting inside--ok I can see that as well but where is the older kid at and what is he doing while his sisters are stuck inside the car--do he not let mama know where they are. It does look a bit strange. I hate it b/c they are some very pretty girls. I do hope that it turns out to be an accident and no one is charged with anything. Pray for the family and wait and see what the court/system comes up with. Justice will be served if this was a planned act. I sure hope not though.

Posted by: DD on Jun 30, 2008 at 03:19 PM
This is so so sad....two beautiful babies gone before they ever had a chance to really live. I have been told my whole life that everything happens for a reason and that God will get his angels even if he has to rob the cradle. I can't pass judgement on the parents especially when I don't even know them. If this happened to those babies because of poor parenting God will judge them....I can't even begin to imagine what the Mother and Father of these babies are going through, they lost not one but two babies. I am so sorry and my prayers will be with this family.

Posted by: To K on Jun 30, 2008 at 02:54 PM
Call it judging or as I see it as a FACT no 4, 2 or 18 month should be left alone PERIOD especially outside. Fact is that it happened and this was the end results of the guardians actions. God is the judge but we are ALL resposible for our actions right and wrong. While you think you take good care of your kids I KNOW I take great care of mine and yes anything can happen but that why they aren't left alone PERIOD even at age 9.

Posted by: jennifer Location: windsor n.c on Jun 30, 2008 at 01:55 PM
i'm sorry to hear about their lost i will keep the family in my preyers

Posted by: k Location: here on Jun 30, 2008 at 12:58 PM
this is so sad! im so sorry to the mother! all you people who never had kids or watched kids and feel like you have to put your two cents worth in probably got bored of the 'teenager tied to tree' story, and needed a little self righteousness fix for the day. get over yourselves. poor mom, my heart goes out to you. i have three small children myself, and am fully aware that even though i THINK i take great care of them, i could be in your shoes (though i pray i never am). anything can happen, so seriously folks, have a heart. it would be different if she put them in the car and left them. maybe youll be lucky and that will be the next news story so you can have something to get all high and mighty about.

Posted by: Kisha Location: Newport on Jun 30, 2008 at 12:35 PM
I feel sorry for the family but who lets a 4 y/o 2 y/o and 18 month old play outside unsupervised?

Posted by: JD Location: New Bern on Jun 30, 2008 at 12:17 PM
To all of those claiming people judge too quickly without knowing details....we don't need to know details. A mother left a 2 year old and a 18 month old outside ALONE!!! And having a 4 year old brother outside with them does not count as supervision.

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Posted by: Concerned Location: SQ on Jun 30, 2008 at 11:55 AM
Would someone tell me, who is the father of these children? I see they are Daniels, good solid family name. Where is he? My prayers are with this family, for I too have made many mistakes.

Posted by: B Location: NC on Jun 30, 2008 at 10:40 AM
Why was a 4 year old watching after a 1 and 2 year old?

Posted by: c Location: manteo,nc on Jun 30, 2008 at 10:38 AM
I am so sorry to hear about this.But to all of you judge yea not for you shall be judged just pray about the situation.

Posted by: Frank Location: Williamston on Jun 30, 2008 at 10:23 AM
"ACCIDENTS happen." They sure do. And this was no accident.

Posted by: Dana Location: Washington on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:36 AM
It is so very easy to pass judgement on other people, but maybe the right thing to do would be to not condemn her as a mother at a time when she is going through the hardest thing a mother could ever face. Hindsight is 20/20. I know I have made plenty of mistakes and LUCKILY, I haven't had the disastrous consenquences that this mother has had. A lapse of better judgement has cost this woman her life as she knew it, and even worse, her children's lives. Worry not, she will, and has paid, the ultimate punishment for her mistake.

Posted by: tonya Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:11 AM
i feel so bad about these little girls i knew for a brief moment and my little girl played with them when they was living in greenville

Posted by: Mother Location: Greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 08:03 AM
My heart goes out to this mother. I understand how accidents happen. I have 2 boys and 1 of them got hurt by the dog when he was about 3. I took him into the kitchen to clean him up. His younger brother who was 2 came in with me. While I was cleaning up the older one, the younger one wandered into the master bathroom. My husband had taken some pain medicine for a broken ankle and left the bottle on the back of the counter. Needless to say in that brief moment my younger son got into the pills, through a child proof lid. ACCIDENTS happen. My child spent 9 days in a coma and I thought we were gonna loose him. God gave him back to us and I am very thankful. I watch my kids closely but this happened in a matter of minutes. He was able to chew and swallow 10 plus pills that quickly! So before all of you judge people, think about those few minutes you have turned your back to do something. My heart and prays will be with this family!

Posted by: To Judges Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 07:20 AM
There is very limited information in this news article. I believe very much in right and wrong, but the level of judgement in these blogs is shocking. As a mother of young children myself, I can't begin to imagine the grief and pain that Amy is enduring. If there was neglect involved, the police will take care of it. I wonder if any of you below who are throwing stones have ever screwed up in your own lives. Because the way you are so coldly speaking of someone you don't know makes it seem that you're own lives are without flaw.

Posted by: To Amy Location: greenville on Jun 30, 2008 at 06:40 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. Your 2 girls were a joy to care for on Sundays. I cried when I saw their pics on the news last night. We'll be keeping you in our prayers.

Posted by: Marvin on Jun 30, 2008 at 01:04 AM
I think nobody is judging the mother if you have kids 18mo & 2yr old they should be watch at all time even when they are in the house so the mother should be charged. I have kids of my own. And I know how it feel to lose somebody 2 but that could of be prevent it. And to the family remember everything happen for a reason... Life is a less to be learn. Thats why we are here on earth (My God will not put anything on you that you can not hold) But sometime you can put thing on yourself... thats why we have the most powerful thing that nobody got but us... is the power of choice. The choice that we make in life can make you are break you. To the family I am so sorry

Posted by: JD Location: New Bern on Jun 29, 2008 at 11:32 PM
A 4 Year Old!!!! This mother left these babies outside alone with a 4 year old!!! Come on...I have a 5 year old daughter, and I do not let her out of the house alone. This is child neglect and the mother should be punished. Children of that age cannot be responsible for themselves, let alone for other children. This is crazy!

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:22 PM
With all these Bible verses taken completely out of context and quoted incorrectly and inappropriately, maybe we should just do away with our entire justice system if we can't judge whether behavior is right or wrong. This is relativism at its worst!

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:18 PM
"WITH IN ONE MINUTE OF THEIR MISSING THERE WAS A CALL MADE...THE SEARCH WENT ON FOR 30 MINUTES." Both of those numbers are FAR from being true.

Posted by: Kathy Location: Greenville on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:16 PM
What a sad and heartbreaking tragedy. I feel for this family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:16 PM
its not passing judgement...a 2 year old and a 18month old should not be outside with a 4 year old by there self in the first place.

Posted by: p on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:12 PM
Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. We shall be judge with the judgement we judge with. God is so much more merciful than we. May he have mercy on this family and those casting stones. Lets all keep our eyes open for these little ones who are so quick and innocent and have no fear.

Posted by: michele Location: manns harbor on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:02 PM
i know this woman and i can tell you that she is a wonderful mother. this could have happened to ANYONE!! i hope that none of you ever has to go through what she is going through. i am keeping this family in my prayers.

Posted by: Blog Refuter Location: NC on Jun 29, 2008 at 09:43 PM
I refrained from passing judgment in this case because I would not want this to happen to anyone in my family. You must be careful what you say, especially if you do not completely know the situation. I feel for this family in their time of loss. The tragic deaths of these two beautiful baby girls is a sign to all parents to cherish your children while you have them and to do everything in your power to ensure that they are secure. God bless all who have been affected by the homegoing of these two beautiful angels.

Posted by: Rick Location: Manns Harbor on Jun 29, 2008 at 09:23 PM
FIRST OF ALL YOU PEOPLE SPEAKIN ON THIS TRAGIC ACCIDENT DONT HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT REALLY HAPPENED SO WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO CONDEM ANOTHER HUMAN BEING FOR A TRAGIC ACCIDENT AND THEN HAVE THE NERVE NOT TO PUT YOUR NAME MOST OF YOU MUST WORK FOR SOCIAL SERVISES OR HAVE FAMILY THAT DOES I REALLY FEEL FOR THIS FAMILY I WAS THERE AFTER THE ACCIDENT SO I KNOW WHAT REALLY HAPPENED NOONE WAS LEFT ALONE SO UNLESS YOU WERE THERE YOU HAVE NO RIGHT CONDEMING THIS MOTHER FOR HER LOSS OF HER TWO CHILDREN AND EVEN IF YOU WERE THERE YOU STILL DO NOT HAVE THAT RIGHT WHO DIED AND LEFT YOU GOD

Posted by: Lisa Location: Morehead City on Jun 29, 2008 at 08:39 PM
This is a bad situation but we must not judge the mother.It is always so easy to put out blame on someone else but I know in my heart this mother is suffering a great deal and not only did she lose 1 child but 2..We all need to say a prayer for her and the family and not be so judgemental.I have 2 grown daughters and a 16month old grandson and I know when I have him I have to keep my eye on him every second but this is a terrible accident and accidents do happen.

Posted by: FST on Jun 29, 2008 at 07:02 PM
JD, she is NOT receiving all the punishment due right now. She should be charged with neglect.

Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 at 06:43 PM
STOP AND THINK. WITH IN ONE MINUTE OF THEIR MISSING THERE WAS A CALL MADE. THEY ARRIVED WITH THEIR DOGS AND BEGAN THE SEARCH. THE SEARCH WENT ON FOR 30 MINUTES. THEY WERE TOO LATE. I REALLY FEEL SORRY FOR ALL OF YOU OUT THERE WHO CLAIM YOU KNOW ALL AND HAVE THE RIGHT TO JUDGE ANY ONE. ALL OF YOU SHOULD ALWAYS REMEMBER WHEN YOU POINT YOUR FINGER AT SOME ONE ELSE IN BLAME OR SHAME SHOULD KNOW THAT YOU HAVE THREE FINGERS POINTING BACK AT YOUR SELF. I REALLY HOPE AND PRAY THAT NONE OF YOU EVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH WHAT THIS MOTHER IS GOING THROUGH AT THIS TIME IN LIFE. FACT THIS MOTHER LOVES HER CHILDREN WITH ALL OF HER HEART AND TRUST AND BELIEVE SHOULD WOULD HAVE DONE ANYTHING FOR HER CHILDREN. TO ALL OF YOU OUT THERE I PRAY FOR YOU.

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Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 at 05:47 PM
This is so tragic. Do not judge until all the facts are in. Children can do alot of things in a few minutes. You cannot keep your eyes on them every minute of the day and anybody who thinks they can is fooling theirself. I don't know what happened yet, but I am sure it is under investigation. My cousins one year old daughter drowned after she ran in the house because the four year old had fallen off the slide a busted his nose. The neighbors pool did not have a fence around it. She did not let her children outside by theirself she was always out there with them. It was a tragic accident so before you judge wait until the whole story is out. I will remember this family in my prayers. And I hope that the rest of you will do the same.

Posted by: anonymous Location: Chocowinity on Jun 29, 2008 at 05:23 PM
What a shame! Two children have passed and most of you automaticly blame the parents. If they turned thier heads for one second or one hour, this terrible accident happened. I have lost a child to a horrible genetic disorder, she was 15. I was not directly to blame, but none the less, my child passed. Unless you have lost a child you cannot possibly understand the hurt or the massive feel of loss. I know how this mother feels, she has two holes in her heart that will never be filled. Let us not judge, but pray for the parents as well as the rest of the family. Thier lives are forever changed.

Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 at 04:01 PM
Probably not up for mom of the year

Posted by: JD Location: Columbia on Jun 29, 2008 at 03:51 PM
Whenever a child under age 5 is lost other than to an act of God, it is a great shame. Lets all pray for the family, they are recieving all the punishment due right now!

Posted by: NCChic Location: Greenville on Jun 29, 2008 at 03:49 PM
Deadhead...exactly right... I have 5 kids (combined family) living in the same house and have never had issues but you are correct about the maturity levels. Kids have to be mature enough to handle the jobs assigned to them. A mature enough child would not have allowed the kids into the car in the first place. Poor child has to suffer with this loss too I'm sure. I feel bad for the parents for sure. It's a very sad loss and 2 at that. However, I am sorry to disagree, I see this as very negligent and I appoint kids in my home to care for the smaller one etc., but not always. Not when there is a price to be paid. Parenting is hard! No doubt about it.

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jun 29, 2008 at 02:23 PM
Basic morality and ethics determine right and wrong. This removed, glossy-eyed, hand-holding "we can't say what is right and wrong" is ludicrous. Should there be compassion and grief? Absolutely. But what happened here certainly rises to the level of criminal, that is why we have these crimes on the books. Ages 1, 2, and 4 are NEVER "mature" enough to be left outside playing alone. Like Trey said, "Her neglect caused 2 deaths, bottom line." Bottom line, indeed. No one is saying that they were perfect parents - I certainly am not. But we can darn sure call out what is far more than poor parenting, and rises to the level of criminal neglect, when we see it. This is an absolute tragedy, but an avoidable one with criminal culpability.

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Posted by: Anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 at 10:10 AM
I agree with NCChic....18 months and 2 years is way to young to be left alone outside....What has happened to these babie could have been avoided. No matter what amount of pain the parents are feeling right now it will not bring those two babies back. People should stop and think what the consequences of their actions will be, especially when it concers a child.

Posted by: trey on Jun 29, 2008 at 09:16 AM
Say what you want but that is the epitomy of an unfit mother and should be treated as such. Her neglect caused 2 deaths, bottom line.

Posted by: deadhead Location: Greenville on Jun 29, 2008 at 08:21 AM
What negligence? What criminal behavior? Leave the Gestapo out. You people who are saying chilren should never play alone have never had kids. We have seven children and there have been probably dozens and dozens of times our older kids have taken their toddler siblings out to play with no incident. Tragedies can happen anywhere anytime with anyone around. At one ;point we one of pour boys when he was 3 or 4 would go out alone for hours pretending to hunt bear or chase indians or whatever. We have had others who needed someone to sit on the couch with them sot hey would not fall. Different kids have different maturities. You could have a child on one of those dog leash things and they could get hurt. This family is grieving. Leave them alone. What happened a tragic not criminal. If you feel better criticizing and telling people how perfect you are and better parents than these are then do it somewhere else. If you have a tragedy, do want to be criticized in the same way?

Posted by: Bill Joe Pruett Location: East Lake on Jun 29, 2008 at 07:30 AM
What a bunch of arrogant, self-rigtheous judges we have here! I've seen the same in comments about other situations. It's a sad state we've gotten into when people think themselves so perfect and beyond accusation that they can deliver these pompous diatribes about people who have done wrong or made mistakes. The reason such statements are made is that it makes people feel superior; it's the old "Well, at least I'm not THAT bad!" song and dance. If you all would stop comparing yourself to others all the time and judge yourself by God's standard too, you wouldn't have time to hand down these scathing, prideful judgments against others you think worse than yourselves. Of course it's a shame and a tragedy that this happened. Of course there may have been neglect. Of course punishment may be in order. None of that should remove compassion from our response to the situation. Many of you need to grow up and learn not to be so condemning toward others. Your words betray your true nature.

Posted by: Ally Location: NewBern on Jun 29, 2008 at 07:27 AM
I'm a parent of 4 and a grandma of 2, and i don't claim to be a super-mom, but I have NEVER LEFT a CHILD UNATTENED! What is wrong with some of you people?! There is NO EXCUSE for not watching over something so precious as a child that GOD has given you the oppertunity to have. My heart goes out to the little ones that were too young to look after themselves, they are the ones who suffered! Who in their right mind leaves a 18 month old and a 2 yr old in the care of another child to begin with? My prayers are with the child who has to live with this memory. God be with you little one, it wasn't your responsibility>

Posted by: anonymous Location: kinston on Jun 29, 2008 at 12:19 AM
I agree with a family friend. If you don't know all the details why even waste your breath trying to judge this very tragic accident. Half of you don't have kids or do have kids but have help some of us don't and at one point or another you do turn your back even if you are trying to be super mom. so don't judge these parents or guardians by what the news tells you. if you knew the family it would be different but if you don't, well just shut up and mind your own backyard before diggin in someone elses.

Posted by: Tom Foolery Location: NC on Jun 29, 2008 at 12:04 AM
What in the world are you talking about "judge not" and "glass houses"? Are you serious? Two innocent babies are dead, and you're spouting inapplicable pious platitudes about not placing blame? This was reckless and completely avoidable. If CPS wasn't already involved (and that is a BIG if) I sure hope they are now. As to the post by "why" - you are absolutely correct. This is the epitome of neglect.

Posted by: ren Location: east nc on Jun 28, 2008 at 11:49 PM
i agree that the parent(S) should not be judged yet. this is such a tragedy!those of you that are casting stones already,before knowing all details.. ever stop to think of how this mother is suffering right now??the hurt and blame she must be feeling?before passing judgment, please pray and ask for guidance first.wait on details,before passing judgement please

Posted by: Concerned Location: Greenville on Jun 28, 2008 at 11:45 PM
God has two more Angels in heaven.I'm not passing judgement but how far would a 2year old and a 18 month old wonder in just a minute or two!Think people.

Posted by: NCChic Location: Greenville on Jun 28, 2008 at 11:14 PM
Well...many of you are protecting the "innocent until proven guilty" but in this case unless the parent/guardian was outside and watching this happen and tried for the 30 minutes to get the kids out of the car then they are negligent! Too young to be on their own, too young to have an older brother - who was obviously too young to make decisions - watching them. It's a shame! Could have been avoided. I agree, we don't know all the details but what we do know is enough to say...something wasn't done, that could have been. Horrible! Sorry for the family! I'm sure the parent/guardian will pay a hefty price!

Posted by: why Location: rocky mount on Jun 28, 2008 at 11:02 PM
this is in response to a family friend...not all of us have passed a negative judgement.....as i said before, everyone should wait for all of the information to be released.

Posted by: JD Location: New Bern on Jun 28, 2008 at 11:01 PM
As a parent of young children, I feel for the parents. However, I would be interested to know where they were during this time. You do not let children of this young age outside by themselves; and it would've been more than a minute or two in order to have this tradegy happen. I believe the parents should be charged with neglect. A good parent would take the children inside with them if they had to go in for a minute. These poor poor little babies....

Posted by: a family friend Location: wanchese nc on Jun 28, 2008 at 08:11 PM
first off, judge not lest ye be judged...let the details show that you all should be ashamed of passing judgement and condemning. the was an accident ...they had all gone inside (maybe the news should revisit Sgt Ballance for EXACT details which he left out)...just wait for the story to be completely released and then see how you feel...SHAME ON ALL OF YOU who condemn before you hear ALL of what so tragically transpired...My heart goes out to you gal...stay strong A.

Posted by: ~D~ Location: Manteo on Jun 28, 2008 at 06:39 PM
I pray for the family that lost their children! 1st none of us can honestly say that we never have left our children outside for a min or two! God has the final decision whether or nor this was a mistake or not! My heart goes out to the parents, I think this is the greatest pain that one could ever suffer!

Posted by: Jerika Location: Goldsboro on Jun 28, 2008 at 05:40 PM
I really feel for the parents of this family. I don't know what I would have done if that was my child. I will keep the family of these kids in my heart and I will pray for them. And again I'm very sorry for your lost.