As a new parent, I have a lot of questions. When I ask for specific advice from experts, family, friends and books, a lot of the advice begins with the caveat, "every baby is different." At times, I have found this to be quite frustrating! It diminishes the advice, telling you "this may be true for some children, but maybe not for yours."
As I grow more confident in that I am caring for Lauren in the best way she needs, I've come to realize the statement is also quite liberating. It frees you from stressing unnecessarily if things aren't going exactly as the experts suggest. For instance, one book with suggestions of age-appropriate activities, suggested at eleven weeks, I hold toys just out of reach to encourage Lauren to stretch out to grab them. Well, she was more interested in looking at the toy while trying to squeeze both fists in her mouth than to use her hands to reach. She's now happily reaching, gripping and pulling toys to her mouth, just a little later than the book suggested. This book, by the way, puts at the end of each list of suggestions, "every baby is different." While she was later on grabbing the toys, she rolled over at seven weeks. So, as they say, "whatever will be will be."